Charisma on Command

This is a compilation from Charisma on Command Youtube Channel.

How to Be Funny without Offending/Pleasing People (Andrew Schultz) #

Youtube Link featuring Andrew Schultz Jokes in fun, but actions must show you're a nice genuine person.

1. Joke with People You Obviously Like (ie: Friends)
   • If you follow with joke about someone else it's seen in good fun/no ill intent
   • Tease yourself first so friends know it's in fun
     • too much seems insecure
     • mixed in with jokes of others shows confidence
2. Answer Questions with Absurd (Over the Top) Answers
   • Mix genuine answers with funny answers makes things more fun and not everything said taken at face value
3. Mix Compliments While Teasing Others
   • Backhanded compliments
   • Nice without funny = Boring
   • Funny without being nice = Jerk
   • Compliments + Teasing = Fun
4. Stereotype without Putting People Down
   • Charactertures/imitiations/impressions ok
   • Don't say anything negative or put down
5. Tease Everyone, Don't Single Out a Group
   • Once you get someone to laugh at something they agree with, easier to get them to laugh at themselves

How to be Charming without Trying (Emilia Clarke) #

Youtube Link featuring Emilia Clarke!

1. Frequent and Genuine Smile
   • Genuine smile uses eyes, fake ones don't
   • Allow yourself to find humor in everything
   • Highlight others around you, don't hold smiles/laughs back
2. Build People Up
   • Be supportive, laugh with them not at them
   • Can stil tease people, but sneak in a compliment
3. Raises the Energy in the Room
   • Doesn't just stay normal and blend in
   • Enthusiasm is one notch higher than those she's speaking to
4. Be an Active Listener
   • Repeat words, or use reaffirming responses
5. Make Other People Feel Good by Modeling How to Feel Good Yourself

How to be Popular without Trying (Chris Hemsworth) #

Youtube Link featuring Chris Hemsworth.

1. Be Funny/Joking/Playful
   • Do the opposite
   • Make jokes that elevate others (nice jokes), but don't look like a suckup
     • keep it short and move on
     • don't joke all the time, be genuine/serious too
   • Ok to share genuine/serious emotions (especially universal ones) without fearing judgement
     • Pride after working hard
     • Fear of not being good enough
     • Envy of success of others
2. Touch
   • Touch everyone (to varying degrees) - conveys warmth, confidence, without singling anyone out (being creepy)
   • Adjust touch according to relationship
     • read their reactions (varies by culture)
     • don't hover touch - feels awkward
     • make it feel good, don't fear being touchy/feely
3. Share Embarassing Things as if Not a Big Deal
   • Speaks without fear of judgement by others especially not being seen as "manly" enough
   • Shows comfortable in your own skin, transparent/not hiding anything from anyone
   • Gives you 2 options in life:
     • own what you do
     • don't do it
4. Share Praise
   • Only compliment someone when you mean it - be genuine/not fake or suck up
   • People like humility
   • Builds trust in others and better relationships

3 Habits to be Charismatic/Charming (Chris Pratt) #

Youtube Link featuring Chris Pratt.

1. Self Amusement
   • Start by doing it/having fun alone (ie: dancing, videos)
   • Do it for you to make your life more fun
   • Do it during "get to know you phase"
2. Reframe Ambiguous Situations in a Positive Light
   • Glass half full attitude in life even when could easily be seen as negative
3. Complementary Jokes
   • Build people up than tear them down

How To Turn Awkwardness Into Attraction (Aubrey Plaza) #

Youtube Link featuring Aubrey Plaza.

1. Call Out When You're Being Awkward
   • Cuts the tension - get's points for gutsy
   • Lean into awkward situation - run with it
   • Call out social norms mistakes
2. Don't Get Flustered or Uncomfortable When Things Get Awkward
   • Act like it was planned in a joking manner
3. Answering with 1 Word Responses
   • Add an extra sentence
4. Not Matching Expressions with Words
   • Was expecting more energetic response
   • Use deadpan sarcastic/over-the-top response to get out of situation
   • Laugh at yourself or explain yourself
5. Getting Caught in Awkward Silence
   • Hard pivot to save the conversation
     • do something even more awkward than the situation itself
   • Mindset
     • not doing what people expect of her and not being self-conscious
     • don't be so serious
     • not putting on airs
     • comfortable with your own awkwardness

How To Be Popular As An Introvert (Keanu Reeves) #

Youtube Link featuring Keanu Reeves.

1. Redirect Praise to Others
   • Can't take a compliment, thank them first then redirect
   • deflect with humor
2. Exudes Zen-Like Presence
   • A loud word or two for emphasis makes things more interesting
3. Enthusiastic Hand Gestures
   • NLP 101:
     • Audio: think it words; longer conversations; more sensitive to noises
     • Visual: tend to talk faster
     • Kinesthetic: talks slower, lots of gestures, words jumbled
   • Eye Direction When Thinking:

4. Generosity with People, Good Character
   • Time, money, compassion
   • Be willing to give
   • Doesn't worry about social media, material possessions
   • Think of yourself less, don't think of yourself less
   • Cares more about